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Engagement/Wedding Support Center and Blog!

Welcome to our support center and engagement/wedding blog! Annie and Paul have been happily married for 4 years, and have casually counseled many pre-engaged and just engaged couples during this exciting yet stressful time; they’ll happily give you their perspective on issues of love, engagement and matrimony!   We welcome your questions and comments and will post new questions weekly. Give us your opinion on our blog!  By sending your questions/comments to The Right Ring.com and participating in our blog, you are agreeing to our terms and conditions.

Featured Question:   Hi, my name is Chris. I think I was too nice.  My girlfriend’s sister had been living with a guy for 3 years.  I “helped” him get off his bum and propose.  Unfortunately, I did too good a job.  He proposed while taking her on a private plane ride above Chicago, and then took a limo home.  I am ready to propose to my girlfriend of one year, how long should I wait to propose?  Also, my pocket book can’t compete with his proposal; any proposal ideas?   

Annie: Chris, your girlfriend is one lucky woman!  First, you recognized your bro-in-law’s “bummness”, proceeded to get him off the pot and do the right thing!  Love it!  Secondly, you are very thoughtful to consider your future in-laws and their time in the sun.  I think waiting at least 2-3 months to propose to your girlfriend is very appropriate.  Regarding the proposal:  Believe me when I say that 99% of women do not care how extravagant your proposal is!  Now take a deep breath, and stop thinking about blowing her mind, but rather touching her heart (sappy, but true).   

Paul:  I have to agree with Annie on this one, however part of me is tempted to advise you to take out a small loan to blow your brother-in-law out of the water.  Sorry, I’m a bit competitive!  Waiting a bit to propose is a great idea; you don’t want to create tension between your girlfriend and her sister, (bad for her, worse for you!).  I proposed to Annie at the top of Mt. Beirstadt, one of Colorado’s fourteener’s.   I decided on this trek for my proposal because we both share a love for the outdoors.   The only cost incurred was obviously the ring (ouch!) and the cost of personalized “tuxedo” t-shirts with the date, time and place printed on the back.  The extra shirts were for the guys at the surprise engagement party waiting at her house upon our return from our hike. It was awesome!

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